TNR Happenings, January 29, 2024
Tao of TNR Training Is On March 16th
Make your plans to attend. If you read the testimonials from the last training, you no doubt noticed a very practical ring to it. At the training, a doctor discussed her disappointment with a CA and felt trapped and held hostage. Nowhere in her $250,000 Chiropractic training was she warned about such perils. She gained the necessary insight and support from the group to take care of her situation immediately. Wanting to help people can blur the line sometimes and we take our eye off the ball. Another DC spoke of her first couple of DCME cases and how they can invisibly hold us hostage and even attack us if we don’t create firm boundaries. Looking backwards she could drop the pride and see bread crumbs were dropped by the practice member announcing she was not who she represented herself to be. Another spoke of commitment from practice members and how she is disenchanted with the low level of commitment in her office. Instead of worrying about others, she gained insight that her commitment level had sagged. She learned that the solution is her commitment level only, not worrying about things she can’t control.
Why is continual training so important? Most doctors and healers slosh through life repeating the same mistakes over and over. They just don’t have the insight and they think they don’t need it. They fight for the right to be chronic underachievers. Think about people who brag that they have the celebrity disease. Or people who make fun of wealthy and successful people. When you see the solution, everything changes. Joy enters your life. The sun breaks through the clouds. We suddenly (it only seems that way) start to receive practice members’ commitment. They express better health and pay inside or outside of insurance, and the purpose and meaning return to your practice and life. It’s a win-win proposition.
I Received Mine!
My artifacts arrived and I am thrilled with them! The colors are brilliant and the olfactory factor (deerskin or elkskin?) always puts a smile on my face. It is difficult trying to decide what part of the house or office they should be displayed. They are a piece of the Fort Peck Reservation, a home away from home. They remind me of all the adventures had and the adventures to come. If you haven’t already, order yours today. Purchase something for a family member or a VIP practice member. There are no other gifts like these. Like when we are at the trading post, clean it out. These are artifacts with a history, made by Kenny, and the proceeds benefit Love Has No Color and the Reservation. An unbeatable combination!
From the Mind of Miyagi
Your past doesn’t have to equal your future. As an elder (okay, I admit I am), I have heard more than my share of grizzly mistreatment at the hands of parents, spouses, siblings, teachers, etc. If a person didn’t know any better, they would think some of these stories were fictitious due to the intensity of abuse, neglect, and abandonment, but they are not. These stories serve to hold in place a diminished view of the person and neuters their achievement and enjoyment level. They feel isolated and unwelcomed and deep inside they feel they have low worth. As crazy as it sounds (I don’t propose it’s easy), the person is the only one who can perpetuate the story.
The real measure of a person is their innate ability to experience traumatic events and lack of nurturing and still be able to carry on. I know many of you are battling demons from the past as well as the present. Some continue to blame themselves for circumstances out of their control. 99% of people carry these wounds around for a lifetime. At every Head-to-Head, no matter what reason the person came for, the person lets go of some excess baggage. This lightens their load and they magically realize they can easily accomplish the goal they came for. Just receiving the insight of what is dragging them down is liberating. Most coaches want to add the latest BSOs, marketing and advertising trends, social media, etc. The only way to truly grow is by subtraction. Letting go of things you repetitively do with no critical thought. Think habits, your worldview, likes, dislikes, preferences, the way you wipe after #2.
Most don’t realize that the x,y,z trauma or events are one thing. You can survive these things. It’s your PERCEPTION of what went down that colors the trauma or event. Your perception is inaccurate at best and bordering on fiction at worst. Yes, what happened is terrible, but you have the innate ability to let your perception of the event go once and for all. The story is the embodiment of holding on to your story forever. As the years go by, it gets added to, flavored by emotion, and becomes inflexible and rigid. Like a scab, it protects the wound but doesn’t allow you to feel it. By sticking to your perception and your story, you aren’t going to change.
TNR has always been about transformation. Move toward success, instead of holding on to the story. Instead of thinking you have to be right, move toward being successful. You never want to die for your beliefs as you may be wrong. Dead wrong. It takes thermal levels of courage to stand in the ‘tension of opposites’ (paradox/ambiguity) and move toward resolution instead of remaining in pride and anger and blaming others. Humility is accepting responsibility even if you could do nothing about it, and understanding there is always gold beneath the darkness if you can move on instead of being stuck.
DCME Confidential
Question 1: My DCME is nearing the end of their first round of care. My tongue keeps getting tied when I speak to them about what is next. Why?
Answer: With many practice members (and doctors) there is an implicit understanding that they are completed and done with you and the problem. If only life were that simple. Relationships, retention, referrals, and results are the 4 Rs. People want to stay in great relationships, not leave them. Exceed expectations, don’t merely meet them.
Question 2: My DCME is starting to miss appointments and has even ghosted me at an outside the office event. What gives?
Answer: You are losing altitude by the minute. Their behavior is a report card of your relationship. Realize this is not always the fault of the doctor as there are lots of family/social dynamics going on that you are not taking into account. Have you revisited your notes from the last training on the 5 dimensions, especially the makeup of the patient? Have an open dialogue about this; not speaking about the white elephant in the room won’t help.
Marley
