TNR Happenings, March 11, 2024

Does it drive you crazy as much as it does me when people say, “Yeah, yeah, I get it,” when they don’t? We hear this in every realm of life. People think they know when they don’t. When someone says they have visited a DC/ND, they do something they don’t realize they are doing. It’s invisible and completely automatic: they assume they know what they are talking about. They don’t! Some people write wounding and hateful reviews on social media based on one visit. One visit! How can you assume anything on your first date? People are encouraged to be, do, and think superficially. The superficial nature of thinking endorsed by society is you supposedly know things when you don’t. I heard some music one day, and I know all about music. I watched an athlete, and now I am that athlete.

If you agree with people who think they know about health (they only know and want to know about disease and symptoms of the day), then you are putting yourself in a position you can’t win. Sooner rather than later, you will need to ask this question: do you have the innate authority and the moral courage to interrupt them (to their displeasure) and tell them to STAND DOWN and LISTEN? There is nothing rude or arrogant about this. The longer you are a people-pleaser looking for likes on social media, are afraid of people, or are in need low quality people in your life, the longer you will be held hostage. There is no substitute for depth or profound insight. Level 1 is superficial, and you are a face in the crowd. With Level 2, you are in a container of one.

On a coaching call, a TNR member spoke about a commitment-disabled systems analysis expert on efficiency who says he plays hockey. This is an oxymoron; you can’t be closed-minded and opinionated and play a game you can’t master any more than you can master golf. She was asking for the right tone or right language to reach him if possible. She wanted to believe in this person, but her training and heart knew better. He is a follower, not a leader. Through the guise of control, he thinks he can control his unpredictable world. Imagine if he chooses to have kids, and he attempts to control them. He will not create opportunities, he won’t adapt, and he will not be interested in more resonation or more insight; he merely follows orders and regulations and obeys the dictates of the world of the ordinary. He doesn’t recognize the opportunity of developing his health at a once-in-a-lifetime doctor. He plays in some beer league, but he doesn’t know hockey or bettering his life. He has a rudimentary, superficial understanding of playing this sport. He lacks deep insight and experience. We see this in martial arts when a kid goes to a ‘buy a belt’ franchise, and his parents pay their way to a ‘purchased’ black belt. They might as well have purchased it online because the kid will get his report card when he gets throttled in his first physical altercation. He is a pretender in life. He is a pretender in all of his relationships. He does one thing well and makes the ridiculous assumption that this socially acceptable (he works for corporate Canada) ability translates in life. He merely plays a minimal role and sees the world through the prism of measuring, analyzing, and treating the world as a commodity to be doled out or consumed with no other perspective. 

He has never fallen through the cracked ice on a pond at 10 degrees Fahrenheit. And if he had, he would have gone home crying all the way for his mother. He has never taken a puck (eaten) in the face. Remember, there were no face shields when I played. They were the same pucks, giant curved sticks, the same facial bones, and the same teeth. He has never spent 10 hours shoveling (a ritual that honors the spirit) a pond. He has only played on a man-made rink and gives money (substitute and imitation) to do this. He has no foundation in the love of hockey, only the faint fragrance of another Canadian Wanna Be.       

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