TNR Happenings, March 24, 2025

What makes the difference? Have you ever wondered what it would be like if you were an identical twin? You would have the same likes, abilities, economics, fight for the same intimate partners, etc., right? WRONG! The deciding factors will be the buy-in ratio of the world of appearance vs. the ability to follow your authentic path and INSIGHT! Think back to a special person or two who took you under their wings, and your life changed forever. After meeting this person, the trajectory of your life was altered forever. The world of the ordinary becomes less attractive in the rearview mirror, and you leave family and friends behind, not in your relationships, but in your world orientation. You didn’t fall for the covid hoax, but your whole family did. When my wife and I purchased the ranch, my mother asked me, “How will you pay for it?” Ouch, this blasted a hole in me about my mother’s beliefs and expectations of me. Mom, don’t you see my gift and talents? I am your son. There was a recession, and gas lines and mortgage rates were through the roof. We had only been in practice for a year. She told me it’s not the time to purchase a home of this magnitude; begin with a starter home. These same types of thoughts apply to war, health, not disease, politics, religion, and pollution: you are not going to change people’s minds. Did a very successful person, athletic coach, teacher, or Chiropractor reach out to you and attempt to share their insights? Do you think you were the only one they reached out to, or were you the one who seized the opportunity? Regardless of your skill, degree, or trajectory, it changed for the better with the type of insight this person provided you.

If you’re adventurous and boldly live your life, it becomes a permanent part of your life. The world of ordinary, like crabs in a box, conspires to wear you down to size, stop your silly dreaming, and become a cube monkey or play your role as society and your parents see fit. With insight, you seize opportunities rather than stay safe, comfortable, and average. Look at all the doctors who trained at college for 9 years that don’t have this ingredient. Going to school for 9 years only to learn how to bake cookies will not do it for you if you happen to be an Akita. I received an email from another Massachusetts DC advertising for an associate with a yearly starting pay of $50,000. You will never pay down your student loans, let alone become wealthy at that level. Baking cookies conveniently omits selling, influencing, educating, and forming a true healing and wellness community. The more academics you have, the more insight you need to stay on the path rather than give in to the insatiable gluttony of materialism and chasing the horizon. Of course, it’s a paradox, like everything else in life. You want to create wealth but not be owned by it.

The collective consciousness of our society is slanted towards ascribed roles for us to play. How can spouses become casual with their spouse and children over time? Isn’t this the foundation of their life? Everyone says that’s just how it is - a bold-faced lie. Just because the society you live in is okay with a 60% rate of divorce doesn’t make it right. It takes INSIGHT, courage, and perseverance to create a mature relationship free from incessant adolescent demands of changing to suit your partner’s needs and becoming a fugitive from your authentic self. This insight must come from someone not in the relationship, without an axe to grind, that doesn’t put profit in front of people. Who can give you objective insight without telling you how to live your life?    

Many moons ago, a DC and his wife reached a point where their relationship was over. I was not asked to help, as it was over, according to the doctor. I found out later (he was ratted out by a TNR member) that he was not visiting his two daughters, aged 8 and 10, because of the war between the two parents. I confronted him on his coaching call about this, and he retorted that it was none of my business. I told him it was my business because we are all one people and interconnected, regardless of his opinion. I also mentioned that his two daughters needed a dad. Don’t do it. He was adamant, and I released him from coaching. It’s all our business to be all in when it comes to home life, marriage, working out problems, and not complaining and blaming our significant others for our discontent. CG Jung said a hundred years ago that the only function you have with being in an intimate relationship is individuation, which is a fancy way of saying getting rid of your sh#@ and not wanting your spouse to conform to your standards. Be strong enough inside or outside relationships.

Unfurling your tongue takes tremendous courage. This year’s Grief Retreat features Companion Tickets. They are designed to give a ‘violent’ nudge to someone you care about so they can receive insight from someone you trust with your life. This person thinks they know who I am and what I stand for. They don’t! You risk getting your head chewed off if they say, “Why are you telling me about this? I don’t need any help.” That’s the thing about opening your mouth: with it comes the risk of confrontation, suffering, anger, etc. Some people will not seize the opportunity, no matter what. Others don’t know the opportunity exists. Open your mouth; your duty is not their action or answer, just sharing the opportunity with them.

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