TNR Happenings, April 6, 2026
A Celebration of Life: The Grief Retreat Is On May 15th & 16th
Those who have not participated in the first two Grief Retreat adventures might think that the topic and atmosphere would be morbid and depressing, and ask why anyone would want to commune in grief. The short answer: because grief will negatively affect you regardless of whether you are aware of it or not, from struggling to suffering, health challenges, unmet achievements and goals, and less-than-stellar relationships. Grief builds up like the mineral deposits that clog pipes. When you get rid of deposits of grief, you unlock stores of energy you didn’t know you had. The ability to dissolve and metabolize grief, guilt, shame, and trauma as it happens is physical fitness for your thinking and emotions. Just because you aren’t aware of it doesn’t exempt you from its clutches. With no exceptions, all doctors I’ve guided, as well as Miracle Training clients, have had this at the core of the hell they found themselves in. Call and reserve your spot today.
Love Has No Color
I should have the dates for this summer’s excursion to the Reservation later this week. A persistent rumor is that our liaison/planner/guide/boots on the ground/Tribal Council person will be joining us for the Grief Retreat. Those of you who have been around for a while in TNR know we have a rich history of Reservation guests attending our trainings, including Kenny Smoker, Darrel Red Eagle, and Dale Dakota. Attending our events allows them to see our turf and provides them with greater depth and understanding of our mission, the character of our members, etc. It is a peek into the fabric of our humanitarian dimension. It’s not limited to Love Has No Color; it’s how we relate to our practice members, each other, and all other encounters.
From the Mind of Miyagi
You are mistaken when you think you have the presence or the absence of things you say you desire. Let’s say that you have an absence in the economic department. Your external affairs are merely the reflection or messenger of what you are holding in your subconscious mind, not your brain. Many of the DCs, NDs, and healers that I guide will get agitated and say, “Dr. Kevin, do you think I want to be at this economic level?” Nobody consciously wants suffering or struggle, yet here they are. Once a concept, image, or narrative gets embedded in our subconscious, it operates without our awareness, and the spicket is always on. Your subconscious has no filter, censor, or off button until the belief, concept, or narrative is neutralized, dissolved, or annulled. It simply executes what has landed in your subconscious, no questions asked.
This doesn’t just apply to absences in your affairs; it can be for presences as well. If your fitness regime has fallen off a bit, there will be a physical presence in your life: pounds and inches put there automatically. When we enter the superstitious world of disease, the same deal applies even though most people don’t understand this law of nature. If you experience an illness, it has to run through the mind first. There is a seed of acceptance after a chance remark by a person of authority or seeing a TV advertisement with smiling, sick people who are celebrating to show you their disease. Drug companies are some of the most diabolical people to inhabit the earth. If advertising didn’t work, they would not spend billions on it? The body merely takes orders; it is subservient to what you hold in your mind. To manifest, it had to start in your mind.
This same principle can either enslave you or free you, depending on your understanding of this law of nature. What you hold in your mind (mental equivalent, narrative, self-worth, body image, etc.) doesn’t just shape your health; it shapes all of your affairs: relationships, business, attracting new patients, marriage, parenting, etc. Addictions to substances or alcohol work on the same principle. Without understanding this dynamic, is it any wonder why addiction help has disastrous results even though it is all around us?
Miracle Training
Tongue and groove with the former article, Miracle Training clients either have the genius quality of being good learners or imitators, or they are unwilling to adapt to new concepts. Capital T (as in teacher) is a power greater than self. Your ego does not have a capital t in front of teacher. It teaches you all about your small self and absolutely nothing about your large self. When your ego is protecting what you don’t want in your life, it will stop at nothing to employ the agenda that could cost you your life. I call this ‘up to and including’.
As a general rule, the more intellectual, analytical, or narcissistic the client, the more dramatically the stats on pulling the sword from the stone lessen. Some have said to me, “I would rather die”, and they mean it. The graduates have said something much different: tell me what to do, and I will do it to the best of my ability. One offers resistance, and the other offers a willingness to let the new concept wash over them without judging, attacking, or dismissing it. I can never determine this factor until I put them through their paces. I have worked with clients who were barely literate, and yet they did what some very learned people with fancy letters after their names were unable to.
Listen carefully to your people. “HOW are we going to do that?” signals resistance, though it is artfully wrapped in an important question (it really isn’t), which our culture values as a sign of academic intelligence. “I can’t” is also a clear sign of resistance and an unwillingness to change. They are willing to tolerate the consequences rather than hang in there to resolve the circumstances they find themselves in. Families encourage this behavior because it creates a sense of dependence on the family. This is a type of tethering that denies self-accountability and achievement, and requires permission from parents or de facto authority figures such as the government or insurance companies.
I am a thrice-over grandfather, and I love watching the individual personalities emerge and develop. They have different ratios of independence and dependency. Some are adventurous, some are shy, some need their mother around, and some are ready to sail the high seas of adventure. If you look at a typical elderly person, they absolutely abhor change, are rigid in their thoughts and behaviors, and believe someone should take care of them. Whenever I see an aged person doing something special, I always give them a knowing nod: they are representing, unlike many others.
DCME Confidential
Question 1: My DCME is making great progress, yet they complain about everything. It seems like nothing is ever good enough for them. Any suggestions?
Answer: Leave them the same way you found them. It’s not your job to transform them into something that doesn't align with their personalities. You offer the gift, you don’t force them to partake.
Question 2: My 54-year-old DCME is getting pushed around by her grown-up children. She complains about it every session. She seems to have a blind spot when it comes to being taken advantage of by her kids. Is there anything I can do?
Answer: There is not much likelihood she will find change at 54. Steer clear of this familial, survival-based concept, as she will nod attentively in front of you, and when she leaves your place, she will say MEOWWW!
Marley, Sunny, & Beau
