TNR Happenings, April 14, 2025
Grief Retreat
Who do you know or love that is suffering? TNR traditionally has been closed-door training for Chiropractors, Naturopaths, and healers who are extremely humanitarian, seek to develop healing abilities that others don’t possess, and are willing to receive out-of-this-world compensation for doing so. Enter the companion ticket. For the first time, non-TNR members can participate in a once-in-a-lifetime training event. To make it even better, Kenny Smoker will co-host this with me. Your job is not to speculate if they would participate or benefit; it’s to reach out and offer them the opportunity. Some companion ticket people may need guidance (coaching), and others may need heavy-duty Miracle Training. The Grief Retreat will be a 2-day taste test for them. A few people reading this have experienced this taste test concept firsthand, and it changed their lives. These tickets are for people in confusion, illness, dark night of the soul, terror, must-win situations, and everything in between. It can be siblings, practice members, colleagues, etc. We are at 50% capacity with just over 4 weeks to go. Call Dr. Julie today to purchase your tickets and reserve your spot.
Love Has No Color Update
Every once in a while, we meet people on the Reservation who were impacted by Love Has No Color. A couple of years ago, we met a young man on the Fort Peck Reservation who told us that Love Has No Color changed his life for the better when he was small. Of all the hundreds of kids we serve each year, some are impacted more than others. He said he had moved off the Reservation for a few years to gain some work experience, and then moved back to be in service to others. We would never have known this if we hadn’t run into him. He’s a can-do guy who gets things done and doesn’t readily accept what can’t be done.
We also met a 13-year-old in the juvenile lockup facility a few years ago. She was a shy, sad girl who kept staring at me as the inmates were being adjusted. She finally mustered up the courage to speak to me, and she said, “Your gift to me has kept me alive.” By some synchronicity, I remembered this little girl because of her shining eyes and her joy in receiving a My Pretty Pony, which my girls enjoyed when they were little. She said that gift came at just the right time in her life. Her life had not been easy, and she was now incarcerated until she turned 18. Such a small gesture can mean the world to an at-risk kid.
Kenny Smoker notices these things, too. “Love Has No Color is the answer to our prayers” was not just kind words; they are reflections of the sacred relationship we have been a part of for over two decades. It brings great joy to Kenny each year as we take these kids under our wings and encourage them to do more and not less. He especially enjoys our new drummer for the Don’t Quit Your Day Job—a 21-year-old who lives in an adult facility for the handicapped. When Kenny saw that we were including him, he wasn’t surprised. He just smiled. This kid doesn’t usually speak much; yet when he is with us, he talks just fine.
From the Mind of Miyagi
Crisis/adversity: Is it an opportunity, or will you let it define you? This applies to us as well as our practice members. What do people do when they experience something they can’t ignore, buy their way out of, cry and make it go away, or pull the sheets on their bed over their head? Most of our upbringing has not prepared us for the Dark Night of the Soul. We don’t get asked our opinion or permission to be thrown into the lion’s den.
Once we are thrust into something like this, we start looking for help in all the wrong places. We put our trust and faith in self-serving individuals, groups, and institutions that are supposed to offer us HELP in our time of need. Your friends, spouse, or family can’t help you. They can love and support you, but the heavy lifting must come from an unknown source. You must embark on the hero’s journey. We find out the hard way that they (known doctors, institutions, someone else paying for it) involve activities, procedures, substances, or methods that are supposed to cover up or eliminate the offending symptoms and suffering. But do they? Activities are not results. Knowing about a problem does not necessarily produce results. There is a lot of work on the tip of the iceberg (the effect) and little or none on the cause, which is hidden from sight.
We find beauty in broken places is an alchemical, Zen-like statement of truth that few can fathom. In crisis or adversity, there is always a considerable opportunity underneath the darkness, but you must not do what the ordinary, average, low-resonating person usually does. They will do socially approved activities; you are in it to win with results. You must be able to make contrarian, unilateral, executive decisions that will significantly vary from the tribe you hail from. You must be willing to pay the price of doing something that does not align with conventional methods.
When faced with the 4 Ds (death of a loved one, disease, divorce, depression), the first thing you must do is accept. Not to quit or remain passive, but to understand that you are stuck and have not been going anywhere for a while. The more the fly struggles in the spider web, the more entangled it becomes. The second thing is to take absolute responsibility for the circumstances regardless of fault. The next thing is to ask yourself what is being demanded of me? What part of me is not allowing this to move on? What part of me will not surrender this? Then you must know deep in the marrow of your bones that it is possible to move on from this. Perhaps not living as you did, but gold is beneath the darkness. This is from the famous Allman Brothers tune: I might steal your diamonds, but I’ll bring you back some gold. I’m no angel.
I see this all the time with Miracle Training clients. People originally come in dire straits, and when they do the work to get the dents pulled out, they enter a phase in their lives of REBIRTH! I’m full of joy and satisfaction when I see people who originally started Miracle Training being completely broken (some have been told that they will cease to live), who then leave not only complete, but somehow more capable, more loving, and in service to others. They now give their best to all they do. They have freed themselves from the chains of the ego-self and now feel connected to all. Talk about a miracle! I just received a postcard from a former Miracle Training person. On the front of the postcard is a picture of him competing in the highest level of professional sports. The world told him that this was not possible. He was offered a position as a spokesperson for pro athletes who had to retire from professional hockey because of head trauma. He refused and instead put his total being into getting healthy again, so healthy that he is now a Chiropractor. He is in service to others and an ultra-successful DC. During his Miracle Training years ago, this possibility wasn’t even considered!
The crisis or adversity in your or your practice member’s life is not supposed to define you or them or have you or them enter victimhood. On the other hand, there is a better version of you or them. Regular skin is soft and shiny, but with added stress in the form of heavy physical exercise, these crazy things called calluses form and make the skin stronger. Some don’t like the look of calluses, the roughness, or the pain and suffering it takes to develop them. Calluses provide functional protection, not just appearance. Nobody asks for suffering, but it will find you. It deepens you. It is an opportunity unless you do what others do and begin the futile search of looking in all the wrong places, expecting someone to rescue you, and thinking you don’t need to put skin in the game.
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DCME Confidential
Question 1: My DCME patient just got in my grill and teed off on me. She said I’m asking for too much, I am never satisfied, and feels like I am not fair. What do I say to her?
Answer: When you were small, you could use facial expressions of frustration, anger, and crying, and magically, your needs would be taken care of. Your DCME patient has never grown up and is still clinging to infantile methods of controlling others. Remember, if you cave, she doesn’t get results, and guess whose fault it will be?
Question 2: My DCME is two weeks behind in payment and acting weird around me. Should I be concerned?
Answer: Have you ever heard a plane that is losing altitude? That’s what is going on. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Once the relationship turns sour, it is almost impossible to point the plane back upwards. A truce is not peace. A compromise is not a resolution. The DCME person is resisting you by protesting, and you may now have space for another, more deserving candidate.
Marley
