TNR Happenings, April 15, 2024
Grief Retreat Is On May 17th & 18th
This is the most adventurous undertaking by far in TNR history! The prep work, the logistics, and the moving parts are all being woven into one seamless, 2-day event. Imagine having our own Kenny Smoker alone for two full days! Never before has this been possible. We will hear about indigenous people from Kenny himself, not white, biased historians who take part in dominating others. The parallels of oppressed people touch your heart no matter what society you hail from. How can this happen in the land of the free? How can you, as a doctor or healer, get in trouble for helping people? Find out on May 17th and 18th. Experience rituals you have never seen much less participated in. The sweat lodge will be included. I have received many questions from members who want to know more about this event. There is an arcane (understood by few, mysterious, secret) sense about this event and nothing about it on the internet. You will enter an ancient, unknown space that has been around for millions of years. Unplug yourself for a couple of days and watch the miraculous upgrades in your life.
Here is more on the companion tickets. They are for a particular type of person who finds themselves in circumstances not to their liking. It’s a great way of introducing people who desperately need help to me. Due to family or social factors beyond your control, they will not take your assistance and advice. They must be able to hold their own in a group setting, as you cannot babysit them. The subject matter and rituals are intense and will uncover and evoke many hidden or buried feelings and emotions. Attending will change the trajectory of their lives and all the people they touch. Close-minded, rigid, or skeptical people will find the event challenging and may shut down rather than open them up to the possibility of change for the better. If you have questions, speak to me directly during your next coaching call.
Did You Know That Kenny Is Painfully Shy?
Doing something like this Grief Retreat will challenge him to the core. He is much more geared toward one-on-one or small groups. He kids me and says I’ve helped him come out of his shell after all these years. I tell him that is how I used to be, and he thinks I am making that up. Long-time members are smiling right now as they think of the early years on the Reservation when he was very quiet.
Don’t Shoot The Messenger!
I know it’s only April, but fundraising for this August Boot Camp/Fun Days is underway. Thank you to all of our members who tithe every month and continue to supply whales (big donors) that get involved in our efforts on the Reservation. Lining up whales takes persistence, as they are involved with many foundations and charitable events. Don’t let people politely stall you with committee meetings, next year, etc. Don’t accept their refusal; like anything in TNR, find a way. There is only NOW! If it’s not here, it’s nowhere! The kids on the Reservation deserve our best effort. There is something sacred and divine about helping the first inhabitants of this country. There is never a good or convenient time to approach people; there is only NOW! This will be a very special Boot Camp/Fun Days as we are approaching 20 years that we have been on the Fort Peck Reservation. This sounds incredible, but it is true. Thank you to all past and present TNR members.
From the Mind of Miyagi
Have you ever noticed that when life doesn’t suit people, they get isolated, heavy on everyone around them, stubborn, and refuse to help themselves? Don’t waste energy or get frustrated when you see this; recognize that this is an organic, natural mechanism that dates back to infancy in play. When an infant is hungry, they cry. When infants do their business in diapers, they cry to be changed. When an infant feels alone, afraid, or needs love, they signal to their caretakers that they need warmth. They are letting people know that life doesn’t suit them, and they are requesting/demanding help. Crabbiness and defending and protecting what a person doesn’t want in life signals an infantilization of an adult. Don’t take it personally and believe it to be true any more than you do with a baby crying. The baby doesn’t know or care about your computer, celebrities, sporting events, etc.; they cry when they need assistance or life doesn’t suit them. Your practice members want an infantilized, easy, convenient, cheap, one-shot solution, and they want mommy and daddy (insurance companies) to take care of them and make it all go away. These reactions and responses are rooted in childhood. If you cave and give in to their childish, unrealistic demands, you will be rewarded with a child’s commitment level, and results will not be forthcoming.
Try rationalizing with stubborn, close-minded people who refuse to cooperate with you in your office or at home! They revert to infancy, and if you toss anger and frustration into the mix or answer their questions, you will realize that you are pouring gasoline on a difficult situation, and it doesn’t help. When dealing with adults, the room has to be called to order. An adult (you) must arise and provide the circumstances for resolving the problem, knowing that the infant (an actual adult) can refuse to participate. Why should you have guilt and shame on your end? The infant/adult refuses to cooperate, and you can’t do their part for them. Move on to another person who is thrilled to have once-in-a-lifetime help finally. Reverting to childhood behaviors keeps people stuck. Don’t add to the misery.
DCME Confidential
Question 1: My DCME client pretends that they don’t get the concepts that I am presenting to them, like layers of the onion, health, nerve system, weighing 320 pounds is probably not in their best interest, and receiving another 5 jabs just to be sure is not moving forward. What should I do?
Answer: Pretending not to understand gets you to repeat, slow down, and do exactly what they want which is to stall and resist you any way they can. With the introduction of ADHD in our society came the ‘wait, what’ cry for more processing time to deal with ideation, adaptation, and awareness as the brain was losing its vitality through chemical toxicity.
Question 2: Is it common to have DCME/Level 2s get under your skin?
Answer: It’s usually the way rather than the exception. It’s what they do to parents, spouses, friends, etc. They push them away, hoping they will be abandoned, thus justifying their woeful existence. As a result, they get more sympathy by not changing and doing their part.
Marley
