TNR Happenings, April 20, 2026
The Grief Retreat Is On May 15th & 16th
This is a celebration of life that centers on loss. All of us have experienced loss; it’s simply a matter of how we handle it. Do we let it fester, or do we metabolize it to learn how to keep it in check, once and for all? Loss encompasses much more than people moving out of our lives. It’s the loss of confidence, love, or the ability to navigate relationships, similar to Coldplay’s "Viva La Vida" ("I used to rule the world"). It’s not one, two, or three such incidences; it’s the accumulation of many as they invisibly slow down life enjoyment, growth, and vitality, creating mental anguish. It’s TNR’s only two-day training. Our first companion tickets have been purchased, and these participants are in for a surprise. There is so much more to running a practice than the X’s and O’s. As with all opportunities in TNR, thinking that you have it covered tops the list. Updates on hotels will be provided by Dr. Julie. Like airlines, hotels tend to raise their fees around graduation season.
Love Has No Color
Do you realize the hand you have had in the growth and development of the kids on the Reservation, with no government agencies, agendas, politics, or religion? This isn’t in some faraway land, but right here in the continental US. We have had the pleasure and honor of affecting the suicide rate with these kids. This staggers the imagination. Who else do you know that can claim this? Sometimes we can get casual with our most intimate relationships and causes; we see this in marriage, in practice, and, of course, our bi-annual pilgrimages to the Reservation. Let people in your practice know that they can join us when we go to the Reservation. You know the type of people that fit best: the doers who are self-reliant and uplift everybody around them. There is much to accomplish when we are there, and no time for babysitting. Kenny has described our group as a bunch of special ops on a mission. Our work ethic is a welcome departure from not caring or letting someone else do the heavy lifting.
From the Mind of Miyagi
A prevailing undercurrent for people who have been diagnosed with a serious illness is the ‘buying in’ of the patient. Once they swallow the concept, it becomes lodged in their subconscious, and they are willing to do anything, including dying to serve its mandates. Accepting what can’t be done comes from our childhood when we were helpless and powerless. By the way, our needs are ignored by serving disease instead of moving towards health. When a contrarian doctor innocently announces that there is help for them, they spring into survival mode. They tend to validate, protect, rationalize, and justify the problem, rather than move toward the solution. Varying from mild disinterest to verbal, emotional, or physical attack, the fangs and claws are uncoiled. If you don’t agree with people’s way of thinking, they perceive you as the enemy. It’s what social media is all about: mob mentality and a very low level of consciousness, to be sure.
Miracle Training
This is a bittersweet circumstance people find themselves in when they are attempting to navigate frigid, shark-infested waters:
You can’t believe this is happening to you or a loved one. You or your loved one has been diagnosed with a scary diagnosis. You go the conventional route, visit MD after MD, search online, or join online support groups with other individuals who have lost their health. You or your loved one has had every test, every medication, and experimental treatment, and yet, there is no real progress being made. Something deep inside of you dies. It feels like the world is falling apart, and no one understands what you’re going through. The pity underneath people’s well-intentioned, “I’ll say a prayer for you”, does exactly the opposite of its intended purpose. You’re at a defining moment in your life.
I love helping people that you know and care about. Miracle Training is an underground activity that most people, even in their darkest moments, don’t know about. It’s not online or a concept known to many. I’m here to serve all my members and readers. If you know of anybody in dire circumstances, mention that you have a resource that may be of service. I am looking for them as much as they are looking for me.
DCME Confidential
Question 1: My DCME practice member continues to deny receiving the various days of their 21-day DCME Video Program, which they complete at home. I started printing them out and handing them to her, but she still refuses to do them. She has paid me in full. What gives?
Answer: This is like people who pay for gym memberships and don’t train. Don’t print them out; it won't change a thing. Back in the day, people would always say, "I didn’t get the fax. Can you fax it again?" Don’t do it.
Question 2: I have a family member who wants to do DCME, but doesn’t want to pay. She feels like I owe her. The guilt is killing me. Should I take her on as a DCME patient?
Answer: Family members are off limits for any heavy duty care. Adjusting family is fine but with deeper care, you must refer them to a person who will both care for them and produce results. You don’t want that blood on your hands. You will be unable to meet her expectations and will also put yourself in the family dog house.
Marley, Sunny, & Beau
