TNR Happenings, April 29, 2024

What can failure teach us? When I came up through the ranks of Renaissance (it wasn’t called TNR back then), I was always fascinated with the people that had gone before me, the most famous of the famous of the time. They got their start and foundation in Renaissance. As a young hatchling, I wondered why they ventured off independently. My mentor, Dr. Joe, would repeatedly tell me with a stern face, “They need to be somewhere else.” I didn’t get it then, but I do now.

People would ‘borrow’ his posters, pamphlets, and other intellectual property. I have experienced it with my Baseline Assessment being shared. I would give him my amateur advice and say you shouldn’t take that; do something about it! He would look at me and say, “Someday, you’ll understand.” “They don’t know how to use it any more than if you stole a pro golfer’s club since you don’t play golf. Or if you took a hockey stick from Brett Hull, you still couldn’t shoot like him.”  It would not have been possible for them to know how to use the material, and he knew it in his heart. Renaissance has always been engineered for the few, not the many. I was angered by all the prominent DCs on the lecture circuit who had ransacked his intellectual property with no afterthought. He was not intimidated or angry and didn’t waste personal power on the departed members. TNR was not something to be dabbled in. It was a significant theme in your life, or you would find somewhere else or someone else who would put up with less than your best effort. Are we speaking of practice, life, relationships, or parenting?

Success, principles, and the red path are irrelevant to our culture. Money, insurance coverage, computer billing programs, BSOs, relief only, evidence-based silliness, and short-term care are the foundations of modern practice. When a doctor or member decides to leave TNR, is it to become a practice management guru, to invent better ways to practice, to teach people to become salespeople, or is it because they couldn’t hack it? The latter is the 98% rule. There are always easier, more convenient ways of just getting by. TNR has no shallow end. You will have your feet held to the fire. Perhaps for the first time in your life, you will be exposed. For me, it was painful, ugly, and embarrassing to be held to a higher standard. I was introduced to a foreign way of serving people at the highest level and with a sense of belonging and welcoming to a community that I had never experienced. I supposedly had it all before I met my mentor, living in the world of appearance. I didn’t, and it took a once-in-a-lifetime mentor to bring those talents out of me. My wife, my kids, TNR members, and Miracle Training clients benefit from his teachings. He goes with me wherever I go. My teachings still use his ruthless, blunt force that stops computer generation people in their tracks. You can’t love away disease, addiction, suicide, or invisible disease.  

I am fascinated by Navy Seal training. It is not the killing part, government corruption, deception, etc., but the absolute preparation demanded of each graduate. They have a bell that you ring when you tap out and quit; it signals to the rest of the people intent on graduating that one more has left the ranks. I have asked several seals if they hang around the guys who quit. The answer is always no way; they made their decision, and I made mine. A domesticated society says let us all be friends. Successful people know better. I have nothing against them, but the quit factor and taking the easy way are always in the background, and you do not have to be reminded of them. You see this with divorce, going to college, working for others, and gladiator sports.  

Aligning with ultra-success is not for the faint of heart. There is a price to be paid. It’s for the bold, audacious leaders who are not the majority in any society. On the other side of the coin, TNR doesn’t care where you come from; you have just as much opportunity regardless of your academic training, family upbringing, whiteness of your teeth, etc. Those participating in the Grief Ritual will experience this from Kenny Smoker. It’s a kind of from the worthy to the worthy. Those few who have had non-tourist Indian names bestowed upon them know of this feeling. It is almost impossible to obtain in our culture of superficiality.

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