TNR Happenings, February 10, 2025
Tao of TNR Is On March 15th
With February being a short month, our next training is more around the corner than you think. This training consists of more than just data, academics, technique, info, research, shortcuts, etc. If I could characterize it: it’s about a very uncommon view in our superficial worlds of looking beneath the tip of the iceberg. It’s never about the symptom (effect) or what’s above the waterline; the actual cause is deep, submerged, and hidden from sight. As a doctor, healer, or business owner, you love people but have found out the hard way about the family, social, and insurance dynamics that make this journey more difficult than it needs to be.
As the world seems to increase in complexity and even teeters toward the bizarre, you don’t need to follow the consensus; stay grounded. Stay in your lane. What others are doing has little or nothing to do with you. You follow this path because it’s the way, the Tao, even if everyone else is moving toward technology and personalization. Before you do any therapeutics, you need to form a sacred relationship of trust with each practice member. How do some doctors make it look so easy? It’s not luck or chance; it’s by putting in the work and training, and doing what is best for the person even if they resist. When you rescue a dog from a pound, it will give you its best effort because its life depends on it.
I can’t predict the future, but I may have a guest participant speaking from firsthand experience. Discounted tickets are available until February 28th. Only one Head-to-Head opportunity remains. Call today to reserve your spot!
Love Has No Color News
A dimension of Reservation life is invisibility: poverty, education, disease, alcohol/drugs, domestic violence, rape, and third-world conditions in the continental US. Most people don’t know about this. If you are a minority or a victim of rape, violence, or discrimination, you are nodding your head affirmatively. Native Americans have been marginalized to the point that most people off of the Reservation have never stepped foot on a Reservation. Many think Native Americans have died off like Stone Age people. Their gifts, wisdom, customs, and language are nearly extinct. Above and beyond the shame of losing such beauty, ways, customs, and healing for tens of thousands of years, their ways are needed more today than at any time in history. Pollution, the scars we place on air, water, and the environment we live in bear the consequences of leaving the wisdom of Native Americans behind.
When Love Has No Color moved through me, it was about giving a lift to deserving people because it’s a mirror image of what happens when you get oppressed or dominated by more powerful forces. It’s a reminder to stay in your lane and stand up for yourselves. Native Americans were assimilated into the mainstream after genocide took the heart out of the Indians. Their customs, way of life, language, and healing ways had to be surrendered to be accepted. As a DC/ND/healer, you go through a scaled-down version of this by being under the regulation and control of supposed more learned and skilled healers. Nobody owns healing or controls it. Are you listening to drug companies and insurance companies? It is accessible to all. My wife and I were not shown rental property because our degrees were not MD. “Dr. Kevin, that doesn’t exist in our high-tech world today.” That’s why we have visited the Reservation for the past 20 years: not only to aid but to remind ourselves we are not exempt from this. If you play the insurance game, you have limitations, economics, membership, rules, and punishment placed on you that real doctors don’t have. How often have you heard or seen DCs marginalized or pejorative scenes played on TV, social media, movies, etc.? The show Two and a Half Men is an example. Shouldn’t the DC own the Malibu house? Nobody would believe it.
The Clock Man
The Clock Man
How much will you pay for an extra day?”
The clock man asked the child.
“Not one penny,” the answer came,
“For my days are as many as smiles.”
“How much will you pay for an extra day?”
He asked when the child was grown.
“Maybe a dollar or maybe less,
For I’ve plenty of days of my own.”
“How much will you pay for an extra day?”
He asked when the time came to die.
“All of the pearls in all of the seas,
And all of the stars in the sky.”
From the Mind of Miyagi
It’s so much fun having super hero powers! Let me explain. Everyone in your life presents to you and the world in a certain way: their mannerisms, dress, gestures, appearance, habits, occupation, where they live, stories, etc. One of the things ultra-successful people must do is to see underneath the masks people wear. Believing these deceptive masks people wear (as well as our own) is to invite suffering into our lives that has no end.
When a person walks through your door, the first thing they say to you in our model of disease is, “I have x,y,z symptom, and can you fix it as long as someone else pays for it?” Now you know you are not dealing with a single person anymore. You must now deal with protocol, procedures, covered services, etc. Your relationship with the person becomes mired in paperwork, bureaucracy, and regulation, and the focus of the relationship is taken off healing. Do you think the VA gives the best care for injured vets? How about Medicare for older patients? How about in marriage? A person gives you their word that they will ‘do their best’. This happens perhaps 50% of the time, at best. What happens?
With your superhero powers, you have x-ray vision that can cut through society memes, assumptions, and beliefs of others, and you will not be disappointed or suffer because of the silly masks people wear. Remember that their beliefs and your beliefs are tightly held on to concepts that neither they nor you are willing to change. If they don’t accept or agree with your beliefs, they will attack you, avoid you, write about you on social media, or drop bombs on your head. This includes music tastes, internet interests, books, activity levels, etc. Someone not believing you is just a projection of that particular person. They don’t trust you, believe in your value, or don’t have the permission of their spouse. What does that have to do with you?
People under normal circumstances will not give up their masks/beliefs, even if their life is in the balance. ‘Don’t do it’ or “Are you kidding me?” are ways of influencing people. Some will accept your advice, and most will do what the people they answer to say. They have people in their lives that protect them from change. Truth has always been protected by paradox, ambiguity, and confusion. Parents, spouses, siblings, and friends influence your life and will chirp when your old beliefs are violated: You weren’t brought up that way, or I’m going to give you the silent treatment. Please don’t attempt to convince, cajole, prove, or cut your fees to make it easier for people. If they say yes, welcome aboard. If they say no, find another that says yes. There are many ways to protect masks in the world of appearance. One is with the world of academics. With more letters next to your name, healing is handicapped because of intellectual, narcissistic arrogance. Who would you call to help you with a DCME?
Miracle Training
It is gratifying for me to see members hook tunas that they would never consider helping previously. Over the weekend, a member contacted me because she had a ‘tuna’ on the line. This relative rookie with non-rookie skills wants to help a 12-year-old girl in big trouble. Walking her through the process of landing this tuna is like seeing your kid’s graduation, school plays, sports, etc. Her biggest challenge isn’t her abilities but the family and social dynamics. She has x-ray vision and can see through the masks people wear, especially when the sh$% hits the fan. She has to catch herself because she wants to help this kid, but she is not the one who is making the payment. If only the world knew the type of doctors/healers you are, the world would be a much better place.
DCME Confidential
Question 1: Why do people in dire circumstances hesitate, procrastinate, and not give their best? I know a person who is in a horrible circumstance yet thinks the key is to endure, suffer, and stay the course.
Answer: I’m guessing you are speaking about a female. There is a word that is not used much, and it’s accommodating. They are socially sponsored to accommodate as opposed to resolve. By the way, it takes no courage to accommodate!
Question 2: What do you do when your DCME only speaks a few words at a time and doesn’t show any emotion?
Answer: They are wounded and guarded. Many people who grow up with keyboard courage lack communication skills and don’t emote. I have had people who chose to speak only sparingly to me. This had nothing to do with the clinical results they received. Keep moving forward.
Marley
