TNR Happenings, February 20, 2023

Every once in a while I’m struck with a principle that is so obvious yet easy to overlook. Did you have a Reward Cascade System installed in you when you were young? It’s an act or deed of courage you shared with a parent (usually a Dad but not always) that was daunting or challenging and has stayed with you to this day. At the time, it seemed exciting and dangerous, but you didn’t think it would shape your life, but it did. If you read this before your coaching call tomorrow, start out our call by giving some examples of this and I will share some with you. If you have this installed in you during your childhood, it can be accessed and creates huge levels of success. If you don’t, struggle awaits as you attempt to build a Reward Cascade System as an adult. 

The acts and events to develop a Reward Cascade System take all kinds of shapes, sizes, and colors, none being better or worse than others. At the time, it was usually seen as ominous, unwanted, or impossible. It was just you and a parent doing something that challenged you at the time; you joined with this person you looked up to and saw this event or challenging circumstance through to its conclusion. It creates a lifetime foundation (anchors in) that can be triggered for the rest of your life. It’s the DNA of persistence or courage where talent, ability, looks, or academics won’t get the job done. If you have it, you know it and if you don’t, you see the world as beige, difficult, and full of conflict and struggle.

When a person arrives at my door with a Miracle Training unwanted health circumstance, it’s quickly apparent who has a Reward Cascade System and who doesn’t. If one of the 4 Ds howls at their door (death, disease, divorce, depression), they will be exposed as having or not having this critical ingredient. When they don’t have this ingredient, they almost always use an imitation or substitute a childishness that demands that God or some other ‘parent or authoritative’ figure take this away from them. They want someone to do the heavy lifting with a magic pill, amputation, chemo, radiation, etc. as they remain in a state of learned helplessness and powerlessness. They just don’t see or want to see the critical role they play in their own recovery.

For the astute among you, am I speaking of Miracle Training clients, your practice members, or YOU? The answer is yes to all three. It’s a universal condition of humanity.  To have this ingredient is like having the wind at your back and if you miss this ingredient, it seems as if you are pushing a wheelbarrow of sh&% uphill. Life feels like a drama or struggle and you are always on the losing end. The good news is that by applying yourself fully, you can overcome this HUGE deficit. Some of the superstars of the past and present had to go through all the work, effort, and expense of developing what was missing in their past. It’s like having a compass for the rest of your life.  Oh, and in case you think the plan B of having someone take care of you (childishness 101) will suffice, guess again. When one of the 4 Ds howls at your door unannounced, it will expose you as an imitation or substitute that only shines when there is co-dependency involved.      

Another symptom of a lack of RCS is you will actually push away the people that love you and are attempting to help you. A dog will hold the owner hostage with biting, unwanted behaviors, etc. A teenager will push away helpful parents. Doesn’t the dog or the teenager get that the authority they are pushing away controls their life and pushing them away can have disastrous consequences? They don’t care (their egos have to be right) about the consequences; they are in a state of Acute Onset Retardation (AOR) and won’t give in until the sh%& hits the fan and their lives are destroyed.

In case you haven’t figured it out by now, all TNR trainings consist of a form of rituals, rites of passage, initiations into adulthood, discerning thinking, the world of essence, and truth that the world of ordinary affairs knows nothing about, and doesn’t care about (that is until the 4 Ds show up unannounced at their doors). If you have a RCS, it’s strengthened by TNR training and if you don’t have one, TNR trainings help to install one. Assume your leadership ability in a land that doesn’t recognize you or your ability and has a very low value for your services. Don’t let their opinions of you as not being trustworthy bother you one bit. Their opinions of truth should not influence your world of essence truth one iota.

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