TNR Happenings, February 7, 2022

The mirror of self-reflection: is an old reference to the self-image you hold of yourself and how you will go to the ends of the earth to protect it from changing one iota. Watch out when it gets challenged: sparks will fly, your language will include f-bombs, and your behavior will turn violent and aggressive. You will argue without a rational mind and will not drop your point of view, up to and including your death. This happens all the time when a doctor tells a patient that there is no hope. If their mirror of self-reflection is fixed, they will accept the death sentence. If they have the ability to move or adapt to it, they will not accept the death sentence in spite of their initial resistance. Your mirror of self-reflection is how you see yourself and how you think others see you. It’s like wearing invisible handcuffs and shackles. How you act or react to anything is according to this mirror of self-reflection. With an iron fist, it delineates what is possible and what you won’t do. It is FIXED for the average man or woman. Imagine if you could move this: the possibilities would be endless and the world would be placed before your feet. The impossible becomes very possible because doubt was removed, and in its place is a possibility for you to claim previously unfathomed outcomes. In his books, Carlos Casteneda refers to this as your assemblage point or your available personal power. Writings by Dr. David Hawkins and in Power vs. Force refer to this as your personal power or where your X is. 

For purposes of this article, say you want to do something extraordinary like a journey into the unknown: getting new patients, getting in shape, moving from being an operator to an owner, entering a new relationship, increasing your income by 3 times, marriage, parenting, a hobby, or playing a musical instrument. These all fall under the same rules. If you don’t have the ability to suspend uncomfortable feelings of ambiguity, anxiety, or doubt, you will be EXPOSED. You will fall back into what you can already do, carefully avoiding all opportunities, risks, and rewards. You will accept life on other people’s terms, surrendering your personal decision-making power to authorities such as spouses, bosses, government, doctors who put agenda and profit over people, lawyers, and the judicial system, etc. The possibility of having a life of a warrior with purpose, meaning, insight, courage, and endurance will continue to slip away and evade you. Having a big vision will be way beyond you and you will instead focus on your own small needs, living a life defined by fear. You will be on the search for simple solutions to complex problems, with no success. This would be like asking to receive a martial arts black belt without ever experiencing a punch or kick; being willing to punch or kick others, but not wanting to be punched or kicked back. Or like graduating from Chiropractic College, getting a state license, and then never seeing a patient. You will think you know everything and will join the ranks of being an expert in futility.

 Here is the anatomy of being exposed when you try to circumnavigate your mirror of self-reflection;

• You find out real fast that it is more difficult than you gave it credit for. As a result, you start having doubts, anger, anxiety, and frustration about this new endeavor. This puts pressure on your comfort level and questions your mirror of self-reflection. It starts to nag at you all day long and begins to wear you down. You become irritable for no apparent reason with people that have nothing to do with your new endeavor.
• You start having unsettling disbelief about this new endeavor. You question your motives, the validity of accomplishing this feat, and the reward of its accomplishment. You will want to quit and distance yourself. Your mirror of self-reflection won’t budge. You start listening to others (spouse, family, friends) as they try to talk you out of this new endeavor. You buy a book at B&N that validates your self-reflection. Of particular note, this is where the quality of genius is developed that allows an individual to endure this period of ambiguity and anxiety (the opposite of instant gratification), where character development happens, and where the scars of life’s lessons are earned. Most skip this step and reach out toward people, the internet, alcohol, drugs, etc. to bring them back into the world of ordinary affairs. They go back to where they feel comfortable within the boundaries of their mirrors of self-reflection.
• You now develop the necessary amount of anger and disdain towards that person, institution, or opportunity to justify you leaving it. You must create an enemy in your mind of who is to blame so now you can attack them. You think you are being taken advantage of, ripped off, lied to, etc. Now you feel validated and have been given permission to quit your endeavor. It has the social approval of the largest archetype in the history of those who attempted to climb the mountain and instead tucked their tails and made their way to the bottom. If you climb, you know what I’m speaking about. You can see by the body language of those parties who made the summit and are triumphantly descending and the ones who have socially accepted reasons for not making it (lack of courage, disease, doubt, uncertainty, etc.) and are descending. Both are doing the same thing; yet if you look under the tip of the iceberg, you will notice they are diametrically opposed. The unsuccessful will add this dirty little secret to their other dirty little secrets. Their mirror of self-reflection gets even more stuck and inflexible. They will agree to accept what can’t be done and they will argue for what they actually don’t want. They will join the ranks of the powerless on social media platforms who write about things they can’t do and argue for things they don’t know anything about. This is where we see poor people making fun of wealthy people, unfit people making fun of fit people, masked people making fun of natural immunity, etc.

Are we talking about our practice members? Of course! They disagree with our recommendations and ask someone else (spouse, family member, insurance company, MDs) for permission not to do them even though they were not present in the exam or ROF. They may say the recommendations are ridiculous and may make fun of them on social media so our mirror of self-reflection stays intact. Our possibility for breakthroughs has been dealt yet another shattering blow. Why would you solicit feedback from people who only know disease that is fueled by people who place profit and agenda over human life?

Are we talking about marriage? Of course! Instead of doing your work (Jung called it individuation or cleaning up your own sh&*), you want to change your partner. It’s their fault, not yours. Heaven forbid, you challenge your own mirror of self-reflection. According to the mandates of society, they are the problem, not you. They are changing and not living up to your expectations. If you’ve been married a few years now and haven’t developed this ability to move through the difficult, an unwanted but predictable enemy will creep into your relationship: it’s called boredom. Lovers become roommates and you will get pulled into the world of ordinary affairs. Social media, TV, the internet, and the government will invisibly control you and you will be chained to their hypnotizing effects to kill time. The media will be the voice that gives the guidelines for you to follow. You are ushered into a life of conflict and despair and the blame has to be put on someone else, not you.   

Are we talking about learning a musical instrument, losing weight, learning a foreign language, etc? Of course! We overestimate our abilities and underestimate the actual amount of effort it will take. We go through the same steps outlined. When someone suggests if you aren’t having fun then you should drop it, you do just that. Those are just the words needed at that time to help the activity find a permanent place in your closet full of your other abandoned conquests.

Are we talking about living a contrarian, big-vision lifestyle? Of course! Leaving the world of ordinary affairs and the expectations of others is just too much for all but a handful of people. A warrior has nothing to do with warring, doesn’t get sucked into the world of ordinary affairs, and all the other mind-numbing activities of sedentary people. We live in this world, but we are not a part of the limiting, controlling fabric that keeps people compliant, weak, and diseased. Members of the past and present have found out that TNR is just not for everyone!   

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