TNR Happenings, November 19, 2024
Training in TNR
Speaking with participants after recent trainings, it has become abundantly clear that TNR continues evolving into a roadmap to navigate this troubled world successfully. With the vast palette of colors to paint your life with, your choices are nearly infinite. However, with social conditioning, social media, and profit agendas the way they are, human character, service and connectedness to others, and our connection to our environment are nearly absent—inadequacy and worthlessness reign supreme. FOMO (fear of missing out) is a socially accepted meme that causes so much anxiety: people are making love to their electronic binkies (cell phones) and wishing they could be in 6 places at once while being present at none of them. The guy/gal with the microphone whose podcast has become their newest source of substitute and imitation resonation has 145,000 followers, so how can he/she be wrong? People look for insight in all the wrong places. Insight is not brought to you; you must choose to disrupt your life and experience things rather than continually being deceived, entertained, and told what to believe. You can only grow by subtraction, not adding another false belief system.
How can we, as doctors, healers, parents, spouses, sisters, brothers, sons, and daughters, lead without becoming dominating? What would you do if you had insight into healing that few in our world have? Would you brag and post on social media or stay in your own lane? The Tao, or the middle path, is to demonstrate without forcing or imposing our beliefs on people. We need to let go of the need to correct people who kneel at the altar of disease and will not change their ways, up to and including death. Truth doesn’t need anyone else’s vote, including yours.
I hear this all the time after the trainings: “Dr. Kevin, my practice has never been more profitable.” “Dr. Kevin, my marriage has had fresh oxygen infused into it.” “Dr. Kevin, for the first time in my life, I am trusting my instincts and not listening to what is said on social media. I used to ask myself why you weren’t on social media, and now I have directly experienced why.” “Dr. Kevin, my favorite part of each training is when you say in mockery, ‘Get rid of the bum.’ It’s so easy to see others imprisoned in disease, relationships, parenting issues, leaving people behind, etc. I just realized that you are speaking to me (it always seems like you are talking about others) and giving me the courage to examine my relationships. I now know about deposits and withdrawals.” Whatever you are going through in life, as long as you can leave the world of literal meaning, you will find a new perspective and solutions to life’s most challenging problems. TNR is the world’s best-kept secret.
2025 TNR Training Dates
January 18 - DCME (8:30 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.)
March 15 - Tao of TNR (8:30 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.)
May 16 & 17 – Grief Retreat (Friday & Saturday 9:00 a.m. - 10:00 p.m.)
July 12 - DCME (8:30 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.)
August ??? - Boot Camp, Poplar, MT (to be announced)
September 13 - Tao of TNR (8:30 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.)
November 8 - Mr. Miyagi Training (8:30 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.)
December ??? - Christmas on the Reservation, Poplar, MT (to be announced)
Christmas on the Reservation Update
I was in each of my kids’ offices last week, and a feeling of warmth came over me as I experienced their sense of community. They grew up going to the Reservation. From singing in the band to adjusting hundreds of kids and teaching the kids, they have been a huge part of our 20-year Love Has No Color run. After all these years, they still put in their best effort to help out these incredible kids. They haven’t forgotten their roots. Love Has No Color is an opportunity that few people you will ever meet have. You can see where the toys and donations go, and you can become a vital part of the kids’ lives. You also have the opportunity to participate in the joy and unfolding of lives that matter in troubled water. A recently paroled Miracle Training graduate purchased a plane ticket and will join us as we hand out gifts on the Reservation. Observe when he is handing out gifts because I’m sure you will see tears of joy in his eyes. This miracle becomes more familiar with the more people we touch. He’s alive and well and learning to live independently for the first time. When you artfully peel away his mask (as well as everyone else’s), you see God/source/infinity/unlimited in him.
You will also start to see this in yourself and reconsider the socially conditioned decree of inadequacy and unworthiness. Look in the eyes of the people you help and the kids on the Reservation, and you will see the expression of God. His mother noticed it almost immediately. No limitations, no being coddled, cared for, or feeling sorry for. Like a growing plant, those fortunate to know him are witnessing the making of an initiated male who passed a rite of passage foreign to our society. He is kind and sensitive, but there is also darkness/ruthlessness about him, and he never returns to where he was. Sometimes, we get blinded by wealth and apathy, and we can’t see outside our wants and desires. Putting our needs above the kids living in third-world conditions is never a good idea. You will experience for yourself that serving others always includes serving yourself. Finish strong, as we only have a couple more weeks left for donations. Thank you.
From the Mind of Miyagi
In front of one of my favorite dives was a group of young adult protesters railing about plastic straws threatening marine life. They wanted to search my bag straws and shame me for my lack of sensitivity to environmental awareness. Blend, I thought to myself, don’t indulge or resist. On my way to Royal Pizza (for those in the know, this is the best pizza outside of Chicago), there is a charging station where I see people on their phones waiting for hours to charge their electric cars. They always call family and friends and imprison them as well. We see this at the airport all the time. If they have to wait, they will imprison someone else as well. Misery loves company. A meme has hijacked their freedom and time. They righteously declare that they have a smaller carbon footprint and sit there for hours to prove it. There is an ultra-successful musician who rails on climate warming, yet the carbon footprint of her private jet is 30,000 times that of an average person without a private jet.
TNR members, you have an opportunity to do something that matters before you. Pretending to do something doesn’t cut it because it isn’t true. My one straw in a shake doesn’t amount to a hill of beans. Truth doesn’t need consensus, recognition, or agreement. It just is. Helping a person out of sickness is actual help. Let others help with other global considerations, as they are not trained to save lives. Healing changes the trajectory of that person and all the people that person touches. These politically motivated causes, along with corporate pollution, human trafficking, drugs, and crime, are undoubtedly important, but you can’t solve them. The level of consciousness that created these conditions can never resolve these issues. You are specifically trained to save lives if you care to. Are you willing to be less than you can be (hiding) in an attempt to matter to people who are not interested in health?
There is a certain quiet swagger and a superhero quality about successful and humble people. Trouble is that you have to be silent and undistracted to notice. Look around you at trainings. Look at Michael, the kid on the Reservation with brain injury. What if he was a prophet, sage, or mystic? He hides in plain sight. Being comfortable in their skin, they treat you as family even if they don’t know you. They let the barbs and criticism of diseased minds wash over them without retaliation. Those fortunate enough to be here to hear from a mother who witnessed her son's healing know what I am speaking about. It’s a dimension that is not valued in our society. What can be more important than human life? Snap out of it and realize how valuable you are to the world.
Miracle Training
Sunday is an emotionally charged day with no peer. Lots of SOS calls come to me on Sundays. After the last training, I finished dropping off people at the airport and needed to deliver one more to the train station. And then it happened. Only one person who knows what I am talking about is reading this, but the metaphor is real. My cell phone rang, and I took the call; the person was in the danger zone. I could feel the raw emotions in this person’s voice; she felt like she was backed into a corner with nobody to turn to and perceived no way out. Her breathing, tears, and the choking of her voice said it all; she had the courage it took to call me on a Sunday morning. As I looked over at my passenger, I also noticed big tears in his eyes. We are all connected by that feeling of hopelessness, that dark night of the soul. Even if you have never been in this spot, you know someone that is. Conventional treatment won’t cut it. Doing what is recommended on social media will not cut it. Miracle Training was created for the few, not the many in mind. Those courageous souls willing to disrupt their lives for 3-6 months get what they were praying for.
DCME Confidential
Question 1: I don’t like my DCME client. She is selfish, holding her spouse hostage, and is a poor mother and spouse. How do I deal with this judgment? She is such a miserable person.
Answer: Welcome to my world. That is where all of your training kicks in. I have had and continue to have clients that my world of ordinary personality does not match up with. As I continued to work with people, I saw glimpses of love and kindness, and, believe it or not, they appeared younger and happier. My daughter has a little dog, Copper. I am traditionally a big dog person, but when I really got to know this little guy, I realized he brings more to the table than a lot of bigger dogs. He single-handedly changed my mind about little dogs. It’s really impersonal when you really get down to it. Help them; then let them return to Kansas and see what they do with their second chance at life. Knowing which ones will make it and which ones won’t is none of your business. People will surprise you every time!
Question 2: My DCME client keeps asking me some pretty private questions. It’s making me feel uncomfortable. Help!
Answer: Keep everything above the line. This is a form of sparring and it’s an immature attempt at resisting a depth relationship which they know nothing about.
