TNR Happenings, September 11, 2023
The Tao of TNR
Fasten your safety belts; it's here, at last! What makes a large percentage of people not attain their best? They get by with minimal effort, cut corners, and are not concerned with excellence. Why do people join the gym in January and stop training as early as February? We see this in martial arts, musical instruments, marriage, and almost any other organization, club, or relationship. How about people who abandon or abuse dogs? How about people who walk away from their families? They know some solutions are good for them and good for others. Yet, a powerful, invisible force pulls them not to change and to accept limitations in clinical results, income, relationships, parenting, etc. Tao is almost unknown in our Western world of the ordinary; it has been the backbone of Eastern cultures for thousands of years. If you’re not in alignment with the Tao, or don’t know or care to know what it is, your why is simply too weak; it will fade, and mediocrity will gladly devour another well-intentioned, wide-eyed world of the ordinary that dared venture into the unknown. More academia, technique, philosophy, dogma, or letters beside your name are no help here. Like crabs in the box, you get pulled back into the quagmire of another superficial, digital beta; the world doesn’t need another one; there are too many already.
I’m looking forward to seeing you this Saturday!
Love Has No Color News
Come on, Dr. Kevin, it’s not until December; the summer is winding down. Contrary to popular thought, Love Has No Color is a year-round endeavor for insiders. On my Christmas wish list are a few surprises, and this will take extra fuel in December. The adventurous that traveled to the Reservation in August saw the tears of joy and love in the elder whose yard was cleaned up (what an absolute mess we started with!). You know the feeling you get when self-serving benefits are exchanged for service. Those who are attending the Tao will hear about this on Saturday. If you have a VIP who wants to step up in a big way, now is the time to make it happen. Having a few whales on our 20th anniversary will take Love Has No Color to more kids and adults than ever! If available, invite them to participate with us on the Reservation. We will give them a hand-signed certificate, etc. Don’t be shy or be swept away by not wanting to intrude upon people’s busy lives: it’s a part of our lives. Invite people to make it a part of theirs as well.
The Company You Keep
Do you have someone close to you who owns a business or is a professional and could use a helping hand? Do they work crazy hours with little or no return? Have they been talking about their dreams for years and are hiding behind excuses like spouses, asking for permission, kids, busyness, etc.? Are they open-minded to principles rather than the five steps to dominate and take advantage of people for self-gain? They probably have never heard of power vs. force. It will change their lives just as it has yours. They don’t have to be a doctor or a healer per se; they have to be like-minded (humanitarian, doing their absolute best for their people) and don’t have an aversion to 3,5,10x their income. Over the years, I have been privileged to guide referrals from members, including fathers, sisters, brothers, cousins, spouses, friends, ex-spouses (yes, really), and everything in between. Have them reach out to me: I would love to help guide them to fulfilling their dreams.
From the Mind of Miyagi
Transparency alert: This may cause dizziness and extreme uncomfortableness. Please don’t let your spouse read this. You’ve been warned. This is about the little-known power of narrowing your focus: deliberately choose who you will ignore to focus on your ideal practice members instead of throwing sh%t against the wall and hoping something will stick. Marketing and selling to the many instead of focusing on the few is an expensive, inefficient proposition of futility, frustration, and scarcity. Everything in your principles, procedures, patient education, and communication skills should polarize people, not widen the door to entry. It’s okay not to appeal to some and be relevant to others. This flies in the face of everything you’ve been told up to and including your spouses, parents, siblings, friends, etc.
Having great doctor or healing skills is great as far as it goes, but is woefully inadequate. This is the garbage they feed you in school: get A’s in school, and practice will be a breeze. For the most part, academic tops are destined to be flops because of learning everything it takes to become unsuccessful. Ideas leave not their source. What DCME patient would you want to ask for advice about from your professors? What you learn in school is a blatant, socially fueled lie that most people will not give up. Being an associate, accepting limitations from regulatory people and insurance carriers (you really think they are your friends?), and obeying public opinion and expectation no matter how ridiculous it is is a sure sign you will not give up this meme. It cripples practitioners and remains invisible because they spent hundreds of thousands of dollars learning how to become an unsuccessful practitioner. TNR is postgraduate unlearning and un brainwashing so you can don a patch over your eye, a parrot on your shoulder, and sail the high seas of being a non-conformist pirate, along with a treasure chest of pieces of eight gold.
We see so many examples of this daily: memorize the script, be analytical, be reserved, have low energy, and don’t make an emotional connection at all costs. Don’t people know that making an emotional connection is the center of decision-making? “Mr. Smith, you have a subluxation at L3. It is pinching on a nerve, and the disc is bulging. There is swelling around that joint, and it limits your range of motion.” This is a great presentation (sales event) about the supposed problem. Nobody out-pizzas the Hut. You aren’t going to outdo medical diagnosis and the razzle-dazzle of tests, delays, insurance coverage, procedures, or going to the sacred grounds of disease (the hospital). Are you communicating with a person who has an issue or an issue that comes along with a person? Read this question again if you need to. Recently, a non-doctor was expressing dissatisfaction with an event she was planning that wasn’t producing real clients. I asked to see what she had communicated to people via the internet. She described exactly what the project was going to entail. She described product knowledge but took into consideration no people knowledge. On her coaching call, I helped her shift her thinking, and then she communicated with the same list of people. Two people came out of the woodwork and expressed interest as a result. Nothing changed regarding the event, just the communication about the experience and who it’s for, not the event itself. She entered into the internal dialogue of people on her list.
Everyone always defaults to what they can’t do. Quitting is hardwired in everyone. No money, not worth it, lack of time, the insurance coverage, etc. Even people who are dying. If your care is paid for and is not producing results, will you pay out of pocket for your life? What is your money doing for you besides buying things that can’t save your life? Will you buy a kidney or die on the waiting list for a kidney like an obedient comrade? Why do you continue to attract people who don’t value health? People are thirsting for solutions and are willing to do anything in search of results. Medical tourism is an expensive, often futile exercise in looking in all the wrong places. Lowering fees, lowering recommendations, seeing only Level 1 patients, making it easier with telehealth doctors, or making it more convenient will widen the lens instead of polarizing it. GoFundMe is amazing in the world of appearance as people from around the globe show compassion (guilt?) and sympathy as they donate money. They care, right? Where is this money going? More outside-in therapy, more empty words, and broken promises? If money were the problem (it never is), this should get you the clinical results you want, right? The further you escape personal responsibility (skin in the game), the more the clinical results plummet. A young practitioner sent my Miracle Training packet to the parents of an eight-year-old who was in the battle of her young life. They have already raised $250,000 on her behalf, and she is no better than before, except lots and lots of medical care was purchased.
People lose sight of what these funding platforms are supposed to be about. Isn’t the goal survivability or quality of life? Most people smugly grin about the money raised without regard for the clinical outcome. This is like start-up companies destined to fail (90% failure in the first two years). They are offspring of the same type of thinking that created fundraising for all causes, and if 90% fail, this number cannot be any different than fundraising for medical charity. Einstein said the same thinking that created the problem cannot create the solution. Money was raised for each start up and they still failed, so money cannot be the critical factor. It’s a factor but is not a determinant of survivability or quality of life. This is like worshipping a celebrity instead of experiencing who this person is and what they stand for. The world is meritorious, not entitlement-based. Too many people believe the sun and the planets revolve around them until they are visited by the 4 D’s. Like royalty, you are supposed to hold this person in high esteem because of their family of origin. It’s simply not the way and is an ugly vestige of barbaric and ignorant feudal times. TNR not only gives you an alternative, it’s about power, not force. It’s together or not at all. Win-win for all people involved.
Marley
