TNR Happenings, May 18, 2026
Grief Retreat
It never ceases to amaze me the different permutations that resistance, loss of achievement, loss of direction, loss of pleasure, loss of self-worth, and loss of capability take that originate from the complex of grief, guilt, shame, or trauma. Like alcohol, it affects each of us in different ways. Some get daring, while others become romantic, aggressive, or wallflowers turn into chatty Kathy’s. One participant who had no affiliation with TNR made these observations about the Grief Retreat: she had no idea that doctors and healers would do this much in service of their patients. She now looks at her TNR doctor in a different light.
"I feel like I have finally shed the fear and anger of my childhood trauma, not with flashing lights or fireworks, but with the experience of meeting and performing through my fear and burning the anger symbolically. The physical symptoms and mental health challenges I have clung to, or reasons or symptoms, are less about me now and more about the expression of my true self healing. I have gone from being in a state of paranoia, fear, delusion, incapable of seeing reality and feeling hopeless and hypervigilant before meeting Dr. S (and Dr. Kevin through DCME) to feeling my worth and infinite connection to myself and all of life."
Our Next Training Opportunity
The Difficult Cases Made Easy training will be on July 18th. There will be a few surprises in the training as we explore the art of giving. When you think you can’t give any more, or you feel ‘why bother’ or ‘what’s in it for me’, your eyes will be opened. We will be doing off-campus activities that will push you to your limit and then some. Constant, continual improvement is the only insulation against being swept up in distractions and mediocrity. Don’t ask in advance, it will be a surprise.
Love Has No Color
I will be on a video call with Vernice and Kenny today. The dates for Boot Camp/Fun Days are August 13th, 14th, and 15th. We will be working on the activities and logistics. I can’t emphasize the importance of your attending and bringing VIP practice members enough. It’s an opportunity for you, them, and the kids on the Reservation. All hands on deck.
From the Mind of Miyagi
Have you ever wondered about who gets to move from where they are to where they want to be? It’s not always the most talented, the biggest, the fastest, or the smartest. It’s more often than not, the person who has the will, courage, and persistence to defy their previous picture/narrative/experience that they had. We all have a voice inside us that tells us we are inferior, that we can’t accomplish what we choose, be happy, be successful, etc. Like gravity or your shadow, you can’t eliminate yourself from it, but you can override it. Courage is not the absence of fear; it’s really feeling the fear and doing what needs to be done in spite of it.
One participant in the Grief Retreat was a DCME patient of one of our members. Also in the group were two Miracle Training graduates. Her comments about the Miracle Training graduates brought tears to my eyes. She spoke of the wisdom, compassion, and hope of these two individuals. She knew they were somehow different, and she had no idea about Miracle Training. They were like pathfinders, leading and guiding all who had the heart to listen, the eyes to follow, and the courage to explore into the unknown. Just knowing that they had been there and had escaped gave her the inspiration that she, too, could claim her life back again.
Why would Miracle Training graduates put themselves through all of the time, energy, and money to improve themselves? The average person does something once or twice, buys the T-shirt, and is off to the next bright, shiny object. People of conviction, depth, worth, and capability are always honing their considerable skills. It’s what separates being good from being great. Unbeknownst to most, good gets in the way of becoming great!
Miracle Training
Each of you will receive a snail-mail letter from me periodically. It will be to remind you of people in your sphere who are suffering or facing life-or-death matters and could use your help. Let’s face it, we have enough to contend with: our busy practices, families, hobbies, finances, activities, etc. The problem is that these people are in the fight of their lives. I am not asking you to do something that you choose not to, are not qualified to, or is outside of your field of possibilities. I am asking you to speak up and refer a person who is stuck in the dark night of the soul.
If you haven’t figured it out by now, a Miracle Training potential client is a different kind of cat. They are not deterred by economics (I’ll find a way), what doctors have said can’t be done, or what their friends and family have said; they are only interested in a chance (not a guarantee) at regaining their lives. Ever since covid, I have seen the average age of people go from teenagers to adults in their 30s, 40s, and even 50s. Life has thrown them a curveball, and they are overwhelmed and have shut down. All conventional approaches have not worked. Talking about, explaining, or diagnosing their problems will not pull the sword from the stone.
These letters will remind you that, whether you are conscious of it or not, there are people with the proverbial knife to their backs in your world. Speak up and talk to them. Don’t let their acceptance or rejection of the concept sway you. Give them the chance at life. If it were you in their shoes, would they speak their truth to you? Probably not, but you know better; after all, TNR is all about serving and standing before others in truth.
DCME Confidential
Question 1: Every time we attempt something in depth, my DCME shuts down and appears disinterested or bored. It’s like they turn into an infant. What should I do?
Answer: Infantilizing is something that the majority of doctors never see because it is not expressed with superficial, level 1 cases. Shutting down emotionally or becoming unconscious is very common in these cases. That’s where your skills come into play. Holding space, being firm (not cruel), and not avoiding depth is what gets clinical results others can’t produce.
Question 2: My DCME is so negative, it’s wearing off on me. I’ve done everything I know how to do, but I don’t actually look forward to serving them. How do I handle this?
Answer: When a fish sees a worm in the middle of a pond, it’s not a free meal; rather, the fish has a hook in it. The fish wants the worm and ends up swallowing the hook (the story, narrative, diagnosis, personality, etc.) Don’t take the mask the person is wearing seriously. It’s real to them, but if you let it deter you, it merely reinforces the disease or mental or emotional impairment. We need water to live, but you can drown in it. Like a child crying, it can serve the child or be used to manipulate the adult. It’s never either or; it’s both. Don’t let their mask get to you. Do your best with all the people you have been entrusted to serve.
Marley, Sunny, & Beau
