TNR Happenings July 22, 2019
Best ever DCME???
Members are still buzzing about the Friday evening surprise (the ancient Mayan sacred ceremony) and the seminar. They were ones for the ages. No matter what your practice level, the same internal resistance is waiting there for you anytime you confront or challenge your comfort zone. The same goes for other people’s expectations and opinions. Attempting to help people in difficult circumstances is dangerous work. Many will not thank you and will even attack you. Regulatory boards will not protect you. Your own brother and sister DCs in your geographic areas will not be pleased with your DCME talents and abilities. TNR training puts you in a similar circumstance as a Navy Seal. It teaches you how to swim and navigate regardless of the type of water you find yourself in: freshwater, saltwater, swamp water, or the toilet bowl. The levels of commitment of practice members were an eye-opener. Having two hard-charging, hungry (they both had their second Head-to-Head before the seminar) students in attendance who are getting ready to graduate really was the icing on top of the cake.
Fun Day/Boot Camp coming up fast!
Please let us know if you are attending, plus the names of all family, guests, and practice members who are coming with you. We are compiling a list of all attendees and their contact numbers. We need to coordinate arriving times, transportation, accommodations, and meals so things will work as smoothly as possible. Please also let headquarters know what you’re planning on doing for your pod at Fun Days, if you’re bringing the supplies with you, or if they’ll need to be purchased at Wal-Mart when we arrive.
Practice Tip of the week
Work on your alliances in your town or community. Alliances are sources of referral that work all year round. It may be a pediatric dentist, another DC who chooses not to see kids, psychologists, homeschooling groups, etc. Don’t make a big deal about them understanding what Chiropractic is. Work on your relationship with them instead. If they like you, they will refer people to you. A great alliance markedly cuts down on the legwork you must do with marketing and promoting. Little kids gyms and Karate studios are great examples. If you have the chops to actually meet people in person (not online) and forge mutually beneficial relationships, the results are astounding!
9 more days for Fundraising!
We are in the bell lap of our fundraising efforts for 2019. Put the last-minute push on as we near the finish line. Our members are really going all out this year. These kids deserve our best effort. They also can’t wait on government or bureaucratic help. That’s what landed these kids into the situation they are in now. Difference makers are privateers like Love Has No Color who are self-sustained and receive donations from all walks of life. There are no favors to be paid back and there are no medical, religious, or government agendas. We are only helping the kids. That’s what we do
From the mind of Miyagi
During the two Head-to-Heads before the DCME seminar, the concept of being exposed came up over and over again. Being exposed means you get caught doing something you thought you were getting away with. Examples are not giving your all with relationships, parenting, practice members, etc. You do just enough to get by and then you get exposed as not being good enough. For instance, someone may think they’re healthy according to the disease model because they are symptom-free. So they don't work on their health. They actually have an underlying illness, whether they know it or not. Then they get exposed when they receive a diagnosis or classification of the disease. They weren’t healthy regardless of them knowing, believing, or caring.
Being exposed happens in relationships in alarming numbers. If you’re honest with yourself, being exposed usually means you got caught not putting in your best effort. Maybe one person in the relationship wasn't paying enough attention, wasn't being themself (inauthentic), or they were cheating on their mate when their mate thought they were mutually exclusive. Sometimes they might realize that it’s not their best effort, or maybe it seemed like it came out of the blue or maybe they know they could have done better, but didn’t see the need to. We could learn lots from a rescue dog, who despite being abused or abandoned, gives its next owner its best effort regardless of who the owner is.
Maybe it's a parent of a child with a disease or disability and the parent doesn't have the personal power to help. Will this parent put their trust in doctors who may or may not be once-in-a-lifetime doctors? Will they get the doctor's best effort or will the doctor tell them what they can’t do? A parent, who is exposed, for example with an at-risk child, will do what they can and then they ACCEPT the consequences of being exposed. They don’t find a way. They do find a story or an excuse that prevented them from achieving results. They may do lots of activities and see lots of doctors, but they don’t achieve results. It’s more important for them to have activities rather than achievements. We see this all the time with participation medals and not keeping the score at sporting events. When these kids are foisted into the real world they will be chewed up and spit out in little pieces.
When most people discover they have a difficult illness, they follow a predictable path. They receive the diagnosis, then they get a second opinion, and then they get the treatment regimen of the day. If it doesn’t get better, they will say, “I guess it’s not supposed to.” The answer is and always will be more health, not more cures. War is the thing that is supposed to create peace! It’s a lot like an amputation, chemo, and radiation: they destroy living cells. It’s not health, no matter how bad people want it to be. There are always lottery winners who give the appearance of cures, but there are also the thousands who are exposed as never being healthy.
Being exposed is a way of life among Americans. You accept your fate within the paradigm of being exposed. The solutions lie outside of the paradigm you find yourself in. It’s the life you live as a victim of something you supposedly can’t change. When you’ve been exposed as not being prepared or not having enough personal power, you get to milk sympathy from everyone (even strangers) you meet because you are in dire straits. You hear this Below the Line language everywhere. It’s the language of limitation, lack, and disease.
As our communication skills degrade, more automation accrues at the expense of further human interaction, relationship, and understanding. -Dr. Kevin
DCME confidential
Question 1: A DCME’s MD is so thrilled with the results that they want to speak with me and start working together. Is this a trap?
Answer: It’s not a trap, but you won't be able to communicate the non-linear health aspect to a doctor who can only understand disease, limitation, and what can’t be done. The Native Americans couldn’t understand the settlers and vice versa. Politely engage in some social form of ghosting and don’t meet with this person.
Question 2: I’m having difficulty at coming up with activities for a 16-year old high functioning autistic girl. It’s really stressing me out. What should I do?
Answer: Relax and just do things that may or may not have a practical function. Just being with you is actually creating change in her resonation. Inspiration comes in a bowling alley as much as in a roller skating rink. Don’t try to hit it out of the park with each event. Each is a step toward that kid sharing their gift with the world. Something boring for you might be exciting to this kid.
Asking for commitment
Have you ever noticed when you ask for commitment how it’s always followed by a reason or excuse as to why they can’t do what you asked? An example is, "I can’t come to your Health Awareness Seminar because I have to take the kids to soccer practice." When you ask the question, it’s a yes or no answer, not a validation of the answer. We see this with party invites, dating circumstances, and at Report of Findings. In our society, when you are asked for commitment you are at risk of being exposed as not doing your best, being a slacker, or not doing your part. When you decline it’s always followed by a story. When you say YES, do you notice how there isn’t a story, an excuse, or an outright fib?
